This entry is separate because it deserves it's own space. (Refer back to former blog One Last Thing.) My friend Sue wasn't able to physically attend her first daughter's wedding but she was there. Her spirit permeated the room and our nasal passages. I have never heard so much sniffling at a wedding in my life. Yes, the tears were there, sad ones mixed with happy ones but the party played on. The few major complications such as a total venue and menu change in the last week with a third venue change the day of the wedding, were handled with such grace and flexibility by the bride that I couldn't help but know that her mother's spirit was right beside her giving her the strength and peace that none of us other mothers could.
This wedding was joyful and fun. I usually don't have fun at weddings. There's too much going on and too many people. It's hard to even speak a few words with the couple. This wedding was the most relaxing and enjoyable one I've attended--including mine! Who loved a gathering of friends and family more than Sue?? She didn't miss this one.
Sue was with her friends giving us support to carry our some of her duties for her. I think we got the job done. We would much rather have had her do it herself, but under the circumstances, the experience was awesome.
Sue was collaborating with God Himself on softening the hearts of a couple of tired, sad, grieving "old" friends of hers. She got the last laugh on that one!
I will always feel her with me. She has taught me so much. Such huge changes have taken place in my life over the past year or so and many have been by following her example of how to live and how to die.